Spending your time

My whole purpose of InConnection is inspiring others to getting to know themselves better, to live lives where they are true to themselves. So, how do you know when you are following your own inner compass or the compass of others? Do you make decisions out of clarity and an inner sense of knowing that it is in line with your own values or based on what you think others expect of you? For some time a few years back I was unsure of where my choices came from and I worried that I was making a few based on what I thought others expected of me. A lot of group therapy while studying to become an organizational consultant and mindfulness training helped me find an listen to my own voice. 

Are we making it easier or more difficult to get to know ourselves when we spend so much of our time on social media? I believe it is crucial in this day and age with the speed of technology and the rate at which social media is taking more and more space in our lives to stop and ask ourselves if we are truly experiencing an event or being too occupied with posting it on instagram or facebook? 

According to an article on socialmediatoday.com teens today spend approx 9 hours a day on social media. It sounds unbelievable! And horrifying! In the same article I read that
the average person will spend nearly two hours on social media everyday, which translates to a total of 5 years and 4 months spent over a lifetime. 

What scares me is that a lot of what we do there is upload images of our life for others to see. It is a great way to quickly scan around what your friends are up to, but what happens to those who feel inadeqate and start to question how many likes they recieve or don’t? Will teens (or anyone) start to experience events for the sake of publishing it online, in an attempt to increase their sense of well being? What will happen if we spend more and more of our lives online? Will we become happier? So many people are sent home from work these days with stress and anxiety that most likely stems from an overload, of being everywhere at once and not bringing attention to signals from the body trying to say; slow down! 

Mindfulness practice enables you to listen to your body and to make choices that are right for you. Being on social media might be exactly where you should be at this moment, but doing it mindfully you’ll know when to turn off your phone, being with and listening to your spouses, children and friends and just experiencing the moment as it is.